The discouragement we all face with our world. All of us will inevitably encounter them. How do you deal with these feelings? Or is there anything that can help us? Yes, an optimistic attitude can help you combat problems that are the words you should talk to yourself when discouraged.
Things Should Tell Yourself When Discouraged
Today is a new day
So yesterday was a bad day and maybe so was the previous week or yesterday was good and so was the previous week, however today is a new day. It’s yet another day to make progress and change whatever I want to change and be whoever I want to be. The bad won’t last, the good won’t either, so I must do my best today.
I would rather be kind than be right
You don’t always have to be the smartest or sharpest sometimes the best thing to do is to be kind whenever you can, realizing how much strength and restraint it sometimes takes. When you make kindness a habit, it will be returned to you 10-fold.
I don’t have to measure up to anyone’s standards
If the person in the next office drives a nicer car, that doesn’t mean you have failed in life. If your sister got her master’s degree while you went to work straight out of high school, you have not failed. Never, ever compare yourself to someone else, as you will always find a reason to come up short.
Tomorrow won’t hurry up
No matter what I do, unless I have a time machine and haven’t told the world yet, tomorrow won’t hurry up. It’ll take its sweet time and creep up on me slowly. So live for today, work for today, because tomorrow will eventually come, but it won’t hurry up for me, so don’t waste today for tomorrow.
I’m never too busy
The most successful people have time for others; it’s those who have a hard time getting things done who are too busy to spend time with colleagues, friends, and family. Keep your priorities in order and work to become the kind of person who says, “I’m never too busy.”
I still have goals to achieve
The minute we become stagnant, we become complacent. So wherever you are in life, always have something on your goals list you want to achieve. This could be in your career, with your family, or in your retirement. Never let yourself have nothing to look forward to.
I am the best version of me
We’re all flawed; either we think so, or someone else thinks so. Bottom line is, no one is ever perfect. But I must bear in mind that among all these imperfections, I am the best version of me. I am unique, I am priceless and I am amazing and nothing can change that.
I will say what I mean and mean what I say
Make it an absolute policy to give people the information they need rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Communication is the key to great relationships, and lack of communication is the source of a huge amount of conflict.
I am loved. Look around you
If you have even one friend or family member that loves you, you have every right to make this declaration, and it’s important that you remember this. All of us need to be loved, and this is a quick way to count the blessing of people in your life. (If you’re feeling unlovable, we’ll cover that in another post.)
Yesterday doesn’t define me
Yesterday is gone. All that remains of yesterday is my memory of events and successes and failures. It cannot define me and never did. I and only I can define myself.
I am tough and yet I am patient
Be tough and be patient, because someday this pain you are going through is going to be useful; one day your struggle will make sense. Pain is a sign that something needs to change, a wake-up call that guides you toward a better future. So keep your heart open and do what it takes to stay tough and patient.
No one else knows what is best for my life
Don’t ever let people try to convince you they know more about how you should live than you do. This is, of course, made with the assumption that you’re on a healthy path in life and not a self-destructive one.
Everything isn’t the way it seems
Things aren’t what they seem and that’s okay. There is always room for error and miscommunication, it doesn’t mean things are ruined, it just means life is going on as it should; a little complicated, a little predictable. So it’s okay, if things aren’t always what they seem.
I will always learn new things
Prepare for success by keeping your mind conditioned to always be curious, open to questions, wanting to learn. Remember if you stay ready, you don’t have to prepare when opportunity knocks.
I may make a mistake, but I am not a mistake
No one in this world has the right to judge you, and you shouldn’t accept that from yourself, either. If you make a mistake at work or in life, welcome to the human race. It’s going to happen. What shouldn’t happen is hours upon hours of self-flagellation. So you made a mistake. Dust yourself off and move on. I’ve lost count of the number of mistakes I’ve made, and each one has taught me something about myself I might not have learned otherwise.
I don’t know everything
With so much going on every day, every minute, every second, it’s okay to ask. I don’t have to know everything. I’m capable of learning what I don’t know and if I need to, I’ll ask.
I will stop being a fixer
How often do you find yourself wanting to fix things for others, giving constant advice and interference? Then at the end you discover that you’ve turned out to be an enabler rather than a helper. People need a listening ear more than advice; they want to know what they’re capable of, not what you can do to fix them.
We all have secrets
We all have secrets, some good, some not so good. My secrets are mine alone and having secrets isn’t bad and the same goes for everyone I know.
I will stop judging and criticizing
Everyone is fighting some kind of battle, and frankly you don’t have a clue what most people you encounter every day are going through — just as they have no clue what you are going through. If you don’t want to be judged or critiqued, stop doing it to others.
I can achieve all my dreams
Age is merely a number and the months merely a restriction. I can achieve all my dreams, no matter how bizarre or unrealistic they seem to others. My dreams, like anyone else’s are valid and deserve to be worked upon. Today is a day closer to achieving my dreams.
I will be consistent in my choices and my daily actions
Live your life in a way that leaves no room for regret; never let the odds keep you from doing what you know in your heart you are meant to do. Continue to make consistent choices and take daily actions and work hard at what you love, no matter what the challenges are.
Today is another miracle
A new day is a gift and today is no lesser. There are always miracles happening somewhere in the world. Just because I can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not there. Someone is being kind, someone is caring, someone is helping, someone is trusting and that is no less that in a miracle.
I accept that my mistakes are a big part of being successful
We all make mistakes, but you don’t have to make your mistakes your fate. Instead, realize that mistakes are part of every successful story. If you learn from them and adapt with them, you can make mistakes a source of learning. What can you do to make your mistakes OK?
Failures are okay
Failures are okay. Everyone fails, the important part is to get up and start over. My failures are okay. I will get up, I will start over and I will finish successfully.
I will stop making promises I cannot keep
If you say you are going to do something, do it. It’s easy to make promises, much harder to keep them. If you want people to trust you, under promise and over deliver on everything you do.
Others don’t define me
My family, parents, siblings, college, state or political affiliation don’t define me. Nothing defines me except who I am. Others do not and never will define me, they can be a part of my life, but not who I am or who I aspire to be.
I know my experience is my best teacher
Don’t chase the experiences of others or try to memorize their lessons. Learn from others, of course, but remember that this is your life and your circumstances. Learn for yourself from your own experience, determine the best practice, and then do your thing.
I can start over anytime
Staring over doesn’t need to be solely in January. I can start over anytime, any day, anywhere. Turning a new leaf, changing something in life, isn’t a matter of the right time, it’s a matter of will power and conviction which can happen anytime, any day, anywhere. My life is in my hands.
I will allow my character to speak for itself
Make sure you live in such a way that if someone decided to speak badly about you, no one would believe it. Allow your character to speak for itself.
Life goes on
No matter good or bad things happen, life moves on. Nothing lasts forever so even though things might be amazing or awful, life goes on and I must move on. I have to improve, become better, become who I want to be, overcome failure and heartbreaks and go on with life.
I cannot control everything, but I can always control my response
We cannot control many things, but we can control one thing — how we respond. Instead of trying to change what you cannot control, work on controlling your own attitude and actions. Say to yourself, I am in control of my responses. They can either be good for me or bad for me, but that is my choice.
I don’t owe anyone anything
Who I am, what I’ve reached and where I want to go is my prerogative only. I don’t owe anyone an explanation, a reason, an apology, or anything. My life is mine and must continue to be so.
I will stop comparing myself with others
No two people are alike, with the same gifts or strengths. At the end of the day, you are competing only against yourself and no one else. The sooner you understand this, the better off you will be.
I deserve the best
Where I come from or who I am, doesn’t automatically dictate what I ‘deserve’. I deserve the best of everything I get and I will not be guilted into thinking otherwise.